They say when your trying to become sober sometimes you have to let go of the ones you LOVE to make it.  I thought when I started my new life as a sober person I was going to be able to hold on to everyone.  I'm learning that is not the case. It's not just because of alcohol that I am letting go of people, I feel there have been toxic people in my life that I've held on to and I never liked it. I guess a part of me want to cut everybody off so I can let go easier. Filtering through the people I love and deciding to cut some off is really hard. 

I guess I am really going to try to be sober. If I'm willing to cut off the one's I love to do something then it must be pretty important. And if I fail at becoming sober I'll just try again. I won't run back to those people who make me feel bad, because they will just make me feel bad that I have failed. 

What I need now is a strong support system. On that I can depend on.  ... Read more »

I'll start this blog off with this is me saying good by to Codependency.  I can not do this anymore. Get into these one sided relationships where one person is thriving and the other person is suffering.  So It's very important to SAY GOOD BYE TO CODEPENDENCY!

Now on to these good by letter.  I feel like I've been a strong person for other people who have forgotten that they need to also take care of me back.  My Dad, my mom, and a few others in my family are really the root of this.  I'll start with my Dad.

Dear Dad,

I feel you have leaned on me enough.  Your always telling me I need to get my self together but I watch you drink and as your child I feel I have no one to really look at to understand what that means.  I'm taking a space from you no to "get my life together" but to stop you from tearing it down anymore. You drinking has taken a toll on this relationship and I can ... Read more »

Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. ... It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.